One of the primary feelings a parent has is protectiveness. No one wants to see their kids suffer or hurt and when it happens, the natural instinct is to ease the pain and speed the healing.
Life, however, is not a pain free experience. Sometimes we as parents have to allow our kids to deal with injury and misfortune as a way for them to face their fears and understand their capabilities.
Today I was reminded of an experience my son had that I believe in part has made him a man willing to accept challenges, but more importantly a man who is trusted and relied upon by his colleagues.
I sent my son this text today-
Just got back from 6:30 Mass. Today is the feast day of St. Vincent, who is best remembered for the way he dealt with pain and suffering. I spent the whole mass thinking about the time you hurt your knee in a game for the Bums.
You were a leader on that team and when we took you out, the team lost confidence and was not playing well. Coach Alfred sent you up to hit to try to spark the other players. You hit a ball to the right fielder, but could not run fast and he threw you out. You were disappointed. But Alfred used your AB to inspire the team and they played a lot better the rest of the day.
I know that injury scared you, especially the swelling that came later, but you did your job and tried your best. It was one of many times I was very proud of your efforts.
I learned a lot about you that day. I hope you learned a lot about yourself. You have greatness in you Vince. Call on it when you need it.
This incident happened when my son was around 11 years old. I can’t say that I knew the result would be as positive as it occured.
I remember saying a prayer for him as he made his way to the batters box.
Sometimes you have to leave it in God’s hands.
